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July 10, 2012

On July 10 of this year (2012) I will be turning the big 3-0. I will have hit a significant landmark. 30 is possibly half my lifetime minus any unforeseen death and assuming I keep in shape. Being that I am becoming old and experienced, I figured I’d discuss what I have learned so far in my journey. I wouldn’t be much of a man if I don’t analyze my past, admit my mistakes and progress towards being a better person on all aspects.

In general, life is tough. I recall growing up in Paterson, NJ and moving to DE as later on I realized how tough it was growing up in NJ versus in DE. Now I see that although my upbringing was tough and filled with intense imagery and unbelievable tales, it was rather simple overcoming the streets compared to what I would face later on.

 I was in the Army from 2000-2004. My most significant experience there was traveling to Kosovo, Bulgaria, Afghanistan and Turkey. I also met a few great people who I still keep in contact with. I learned about betrayal on a different level. It’s one thing when as a kid your friends aren’t there to back you up in conflicts but it’s another when you love someone who cheats on you. Or at least, you thought it was love at the time.

That’s another lesson learned. Differentiating lust from love. Somethings you learn and somethings you think you’ve learned. I believe I can distinguish the two now.

The term “work” holds more weight now as it did when I was coming out of highschool. I’m a middle-income earner but I do have some monetary accomplishments in my home, car, and some material possessions. Although I don’t own a BMW, some of my friends think I do ok. They don’t know the amount of debt I have, lol. I acknowledge my small possessions but I have bigger aspirations financially. The point is that all this stuff didn’t appear at my door. I worked hard. I sought employment after the Army and moved my way up. I pursued and continue to pursue my education. None of this was easy. It took “work”. And it’s going to take more work to have a mansion, Bentleys, buy Lino and Julian race cars, etc. It’s like I said, the term “work” has more value. Same can be said in a relationship or marriage. If both sides aren’t willing to work, then why bother making the commitment.

I’ve fallen in love so I know what that’s about. Although it didn’t work out, I don’t regret one second of it.

I am a father. A proud father of two sons Julian (7) and Jaiden Lino (3). Each with their unique personalities, strengths and weaknesses. It’s up to me to do my best to mold them into strong, educated and humble individuals. In fatherhood, there will always be something to learn. Some lessons in life are everlasting courses.

My values mean a lot to me. To me, the following values are of the utmost importance in life: honesty, trust, loyalty.

In a relationship, communication is vital. Mutual understanding is vital. You must understand each other as the relationship changes (dating to serious to marriage, family, etc) because everything grows. Nothing stays the same. Genuine care and attention is also vital.

What else? ……..

The love I have to give is immense. I love until it hurts. My mother, sons and family I hold very dear to me. The same goes for anyone else around me that I care about. I can be a best friend and I can be a worst enemy.

Anyone is capable of anything. If someone tells you one day they’re going to be a millionaire, it might turn out to be true. The same thing goes in any other aspect. Example: Forever may not be forever.

I realize that there is too much to write in one post about my life’s lesson in 30 years, lol (laughing out loud). I promise to continue to share my thoughts, life’s lessons, etc through this site, which I call my “muse”.

Finally, I look forward to turning 30 and celebrating my accomplishments as well as work on my weaknesses.

We live to be better people and should constantly work on becoming so. I live to progress and not go backwards or to stay in the same realm as an individual.

Thanks for reading…………….

Pablo “Lito” Alva Jr. aka The Man With The Master Plan aka B Star aka The General


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